Post-Twin Birthday Wishes… March 13, 2013Posted by lisawifemom in Random Thoughts and Observations.
Tags: Birthday, Children, Me time, Mommy time
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After having children, something changed about how I feel about my birthdays. I mean, frankly as I get older, my attitude about them changes anyway, naturally. But I’m talking about something else, what I want, how I want to spend them.
I used to enjoy having my birthday as an excuse to host a party, loved hosting a party! And who doesn’t love a gift or two?
I no longer care if I get jewelry, or clothes, or perfume. I don’t want a party or to go to a fancy dinner. Now, what I really want is two days alone! I say two days because I figure, with all the sleeping, it will take me about that long to accomplish everything I’d like to do. I want to get my hair done, my nails (both hands and toes), a massage, maybe a facial and some waxing. I’d like to watch some TV and/or movies, read some magazines, a bit of a book, and do some leisurely shopping.
Since having the twins, accomplishing those things goes more like this: no money to do hair, nails, facial, or massage; not enough me-time to use the occasional massage certificate; read a few minutes of a magazine while on toilet; watch a show or two at 10pm before passing out; and shopping, ha, IF I find the money, I’m rushing my ass off to get it done between this and that thing.
How has what you want and want to do for your birthday changed since kids?
Twins – Do They Get Easier As They Grow Up?? February 21, 2013Posted by lisawifemom in It's All About the Twins.
Tags: Family, Parenting, twins
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Or any children for that matter!
Recently I attended a birthday party for one year old twins, my niece and nephew, oh so adorable. Of course my 7-year-old twins were there too. It was so much fun to play with babies again and my kids were pretty good about letting me do it.
It reminded me how damn easy certain things were back then, and how hard they were, and time-consuming. I always hear twin parents tell new twin parents “Don’t worry, it gets easier.” Does it? Sure you may get more sleep, there’s less dependence with bathing, dressing, feeding, but there are other things that get harder, and new things that you don’t even know about, and they are very hard. So I don’t think it does get easier, it just gets different. And we’re not even talking about the teenage years yet, I’m hearing that new parents and those of us with school age kids, have NO idea what hard is yet. That scares the shit out of me, because my daughter already has me pulling my hair out with her “teenage” attitude. My son is so defiant already, I can’t imagine.
So yes, you may get more sleep, although I have never slept as good as I did pre-kids, I’m not sure I ever will. And yes, there is a little bit more freedom as they become more self-sufficient, but that freedom is slowly sucked up by school projects, homework, activities, etc. And I could go on and on about what gets easier and then is immediately replaced by something harder. The bottom line is, enjoy every step of the journey, it’s so wonderful, exhausting, magical, and frustrating. I crave a break from it and then when I get the break I so desperately need, I quickly start craving the chaos again and missing those “babies” like crazy.
People Are Just Weird…Or Are They Just Different? February 19, 2013Posted by lisawifemom in Random Thoughts and Observations.
People are just weird, that’s our (hubby & me) go-to phrase when we just don’t get what someone else is doing or saying, they are weird, not like us, different. But then I always walk away from those conversations thinking, well, I’m sure others say the exact same thing about us when they disagree with what we’re doing or saying. And in fact, often times, I think hubby is just weird.
Do you ever get that desperate feeling that the person you’re disagreeing with just hasn’t really grasped what you’re trying to say and that once they do, the light bulb will go on? And the more desperately you try to explain your point of view, the more “weird” you look to them and the less likely they are to “see” what you’re saying.
I know that sometimes those people are just weird, but most of the time they just have a different opinion, do things differently and as much as it doesn’t make sense to me, it’s their choice and I have to respect it. But oh it can be so hard and frustrating sometimes!
Do you and your mate/friend/sister/mom have something you say when you just look at each other and know that you both think that person is just….weird?