WOTC – Weeding out the Crap February 25, 2011Posted by lisawifemom in Random Thoughts and Observations.
Tags: change, hormones, life change, moms
A group of moms sitting around discussing how we are changing with age, not all good, and how we’re dealing with it with regard to our families. It’s difficult, we have small children, we can’t take it out on them, yet we sometimes do, we’re human, it’s tough, and having others to commiserate with makes it a bit easier. During this conversation, the WOTC was created. Are you a part of this group?
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What’s up with boys and their violence? February 23, 2011Posted by lisawifemom in It's All About the Twins.
Tags: boys, Nerf, Toy weapon, violence
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I swear they come out of the womb making a gun with their fingers!! We worked so hard for over 4 years to keep any violent toys, games, programs, etc. out of our house; yet he still ran around pretending to shoot, wrestling, kicking, making his toys kill each other. Where do they get it??? I know school has some influence, but we’re at a small school with a strong non-violent policy.
Anyway, sometime after he turned 4 it started creeping into the shows his daddy would let him watch, and the movies they were now old enough to watch (supposedly). But I still kept it at a minimum and no weapon toys or games. However, this last Christmas, after he turned 5, my family decided they had waited long enough and bought him nerf guns. HE WAS IN HEAVEN! It was not really a dis-respectful thing on my family’s behalf, BTW, it was coming one way or another. His daddy believes you have to let boys be boys and has fought with him from the beginning.
At school his little BFF is also a lover of the fighting, so we had to finally realize, with the Director’s help, that these boys just need this type of expression. The school’s no hitting/kicking/fighting policy would have to be bent for these two boys, this is how they needed to express themselves and it obviously worked for them. They have this unspoken agreement, we observed, that this is ok, they will get hurt, and they don’t get mad at each other (much). In fact, often when one hurts the other, they both cry!
I notice the same patterns at the park, most of the boys just cannot play without pretending to have weapons, chasing, hitting, wrestling, etc. It’s just born into them, they are fighters.
I’m learning so much about men in having a son. And my daughter, this sure is toughening her up as well! My son will no longer play dolls, or baby with her, so if she wants a play companion at home, she must play his games. So now she runs around fighting, kicking, etc. Women are so much more flexible!!
Would love to hear from other mothers of sons. Does your son like to play-fight, use play weapons? If not, is it something you think you had to work on or was he just not born with the tendency?