Twins – Do They Get Easier As They Grow Up?? February 21, 2013Posted by lisawifemom in It's All About the Twins.
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Or any children for that matter!
Recently I attended a birthday party for one year old twins, my niece and nephew, oh so adorable. Of course my 7-year-old twins were there too. It was so much fun to play with babies again and my kids were pretty good about letting me do it.
It reminded me how damn easy certain things were back then, and how hard they were, and time-consuming. I always hear twin parents tell new twin parents “Don’t worry, it gets easier.” Does it? Sure you may get more sleep, there’s less dependence with bathing, dressing, feeding, but there are other things that get harder, and new things that you don’t even know about, and they are very hard. So I don’t think it does get easier, it just gets different. And we’re not even talking about the teenage years yet, I’m hearing that new parents and those of us with school age kids, have NO idea what hard is yet. That scares the shit out of me, because my daughter already has me pulling my hair out with her “teenage” attitude. My son is so defiant already, I can’t imagine.
So yes, you may get more sleep, although I have never slept as good as I did pre-kids, I’m not sure I ever will. And yes, there is a little bit more freedom as they become more self-sufficient, but that freedom is slowly sucked up by school projects, homework, activities, etc. And I could go on and on about what gets easier and then is immediately replaced by something harder. The bottom line is, enjoy every step of the journey, it’s so wonderful, exhausting, magical, and frustrating. I crave a break from it and then when I get the break I so desperately need, I quickly start craving the chaos again and missing those “babies” like crazy.
Stressful Day Saved with Twin Love November 8, 2012Posted by lisawifemom in It's All About the Twins.
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Work started out being very crazy and stressful, fires right and left, and a few hurtful jabs. Then mid-way thru the day, there was a violent stabbing incident at a factory on the next street; the attacker was running away, helicopter overhead, cops everywhere, we were on lock down for a couple of hours. It was a strange incident, but not really scary, just…I don’t know, weird and sad.
Towards the end of the day, I got two pieces of bad news: my real estate clients, and friends, did not get a house they wanted, and someone I love lost her brother at far too young of an age. There will be other houses, obviously, but the death was gut wrenching. Although it put my stressful, bad day in prospective, I was in such pain for that family.
So I went home to deal with cranky kids not wanting to do homework, the usual. Doing homework with twins has it’s own special challenges!
Then two wonderful things happened: my husband brought home dinner so I wouldn’t have to cook and the twins had a wonderful evening. They started joking during dinner, and laughed like crazy. After dinner they quickly took their showers and then started playing together, so nicely, and laughed an giggled until bedtime. Dad and I relaxed and just listened and watched, with big smiles on our faces. This rare anymore, they fight a lot of this age, and like to do different things usually. However, on this tough night, they gave us perspective and melted away our stress with their giggles.
I am thankful.
The Twins Had A Great 7th Birthday Party! October 25, 2012Posted by lisawifemom in It's All About the Twins.
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This year’s birthday party seemed much easier and a bit less stressful than years past. It only took us 7 years to realize that throwing some $$ at the event makes it much easier!!
Of course the twins wanted to do something we refused, a local pizza/video game place that we hate. Really, it’s all about the video games for them. So we took that idea and made it much, much better. Thanks to Fresh Brothers Pizza in Marina del Rey, they got their pizza birthday party, some non-video game fun, and we all got some good food!
They all got to make their own pizzas, decorate their own t-shirts and cupcakes, get their faces painted, tattooed and just generally be 7 year olds. We on the other hand, showed up to the party with nothing but one t-shirt per child in our hands. Fresh Brothers took care of EVERYTHING else, including set up and clean up. We actually socialized with the other parents, and just did little things here and there because we wanted to do it.
Two and half hours later, 14 very happy, sugared up children went on their merry away with bellys full of yummy pizza they had made themselves.
On another note, on the gift front, the twins wanted to give back this year. It was really so very sweet, they are very concerned about other children starving. So we used EchoAge for our invites/gifts this year. They are a great company that collects whatever funds guests decide to contribute and distributes them 50% to the charity of your choice (from their list) and 50% back to you to purchase special gifts for your kids. It saves your guests from having to think of something, shop, wrap, and rememrber to bring it. It also saves you from getting a bunch of little toys that they really don’t need or want.
So the twins chose Blessings in a Backpack, which gives underprivileged kids a backpack of food for the weekend. Then they choose some special birthday presents that they wanted, a new bike, a ukelele, and some sort of handheld video game.
The invites tell guests all about the organization and the gifts the kids pick. It was super special and we were able to give a generous amount to the charity, and with some finagling and creativity, the twins got all they wanted!
So all-in-all, a truly lovely, fun, and only minor stressful 7th birthday for our yummy little boy/girl twins!