Maybe I’ll Call The Twins Coinkidinks… October 26, 2011Posted by lisawifemom in It's All About the Twins.
Tags: Family, Multiple Births, Sibling, Twin
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Siblings born on the same day, but not identical, as I’ve said, should not be called twins. The word twins conjures up so many things that often don’t apply to my coinkidinks. Such as they are so alike, they think for each other, they can’t be apart, etc. Although sometimes those things can be true to my twins, they really are SOOO different.
There is something to be said for sharing the same womb, growing up simultaneously in every way, etc., but identicals take those things to a whole other level. I’m not sure that if my twins had been born as just siblings, they would not be exactly the same; this cannot be said for indenticals. Fraternal twins are siblings that just happen to be born on the same day. Some parents of franternals will argue, saying their twins have a special connection, and I’m not denying that there may be some slight special connection, but for the most part, I bet if those kids were born on separate days, there would be mostly the same connection. My sister and I were born almost two years apart, however, we had a special language, we call it “speakin family.” When you share a room with someone you’re whole childhood, you learn to read each other, you know that person better than anyone else knows them. You don’t have to be twins to have that connection.
So I’m trying out the word “coinkidinks” for my kids, siblings that were coincidentally born on the same day.
If you’re a parent of multiples, I would love to hear what you think on the subject. Even if you’re not a parent of multiples, can you think of another word that could be used for fraternal twins?
Tags: Only child, Sibling, Twin
I’ve been struck lately by how very bonded my kids are, and how much they do rely on each other for companionship. They of course fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but in the end they still have each other. I’m so very happy about that, for them.
I sometimes try to imagine them not having each other, being an only child, and it makes me sad. Just simple things, like sleeping in a room alone, riding in the backseat alone, playing alone, watching a movie alone, and so many other things. Sometimes they may choose to be alone, but they don’t have to, and usually don’t want it either. I know that an only child doesn’t know the difference and that this is just me, knowing the difference, but I do know, and I am glad.
My sister and I are two years apart and I can’t imagine not having a sibling in my life!
No one knows you better, cradle to grave.
In this regard, how do you feel about being an only child? Or about having siblings?