Have you ever noticed…toxic people August 30, 2011
Posted by lisawifemom in Random Thoughts and Observations.Tags: toxic people
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Forewarning: This is a post I started writing several months ago, and have added bits and pieces to since then, so it’s not aimed at anyone in particular. 
When you try to limit or eliminate toxic people from your life, do they turn it around and say you’re not being supportive? If I try and try again to be supportive, understanding, and help a person that is having some “issues,” only to continue to receive those “oh, whoas me” calls, then I’ve done all I can. I can not make someone take the steps that they need to improve their lives, whether it be stop using, leave that bum, focus on the positive, or whatever, when a person calls for the same advice over and over, it gets exhausting. It also becomes toxic sometimes.
I have felt the life being sucked out of me at times. I start to feel so responsible, obsess over how I can help, and why that person isn’t seeing what’s so damn obvious to the rest of the world, etc. It starts to affect my life. And if it’s someone who I really love, I’m willing to take that blow, for a bit. However, I don’t care how much I love you, who you are, I can only give you my all for so long, then I gotta get that damaging behavior out of my life! I’m sorry, I feel for ya, I hate to see it happen, however, I’ve got my family to worry about, and if you’re not willing to help yourself, then all my help is in vain, and I’m done, I can’t watch it anymore.
Do you continuously try to fix the same people, with their same problems, at any expense? Or can you only give so much, care so much, and then you must move on?
